WHAT IS COACHING
Life coaching is one of those things that we hear about on TV and in the press and laugh at, thinking to ourselves how ridiculous people are that need such a thing. If you look into it further, however, you might be surprised at how useful a little life coaching can be.
Put simply, life coaches take techniques from psychology, counseling and mentoring, and combine them to help clients achieve their goals. Some examples of the techniques used include behavior modification and goal-setting, although almost any technique can be brought in if the coach believes it will be helpful. The coach’s most important role is to simply listen to what their client has to say, and help them work through the problems that are standing between them and their goals.
Of course you already have the gifts, skills, and talent you need to get your goals accomplished, right? However, a coach can help you achieve your goals faster and with less mistakes. Think about it like a sports team. You have a group of guys with all the skill and speed they can stand, but unless they have someone with the technical knowledge of the game, they may never win.
Having a coach helps you avoid many of the bumps in the road to your dreams. When you do slip, a coach can help you recover easier and tap into the lesson inside the fall. Your coach is your motivator, your encouragement, and the person who reminds you who you are and what you can do when life has other plans. Your coach doesn’t let you give up on yourself or play the victim, because they’re as invested in your win as you are.
Investing in the right life coach (but really, investing in yourself) is literally – a game changer.
MYTHS ABOUT COACHING
Your Coach is not the expert, You are!
One of the biggest myths about life coaching is that your coach needs to be the expert on your life.
News flash – no one knows you better than you do.
It’s important to know that when you’re bringing people into your life, whether it’s to manage your finances, your household, your business, whatever – they’re coming in to build on what’s already there. Not knowing the ins and outs of your own operation, including your issues, is a recipe for disaster.
Many people hire life coaches thinking that the coach comes in to solve their problems. Those problems may be in business, performance, academics, marriage. They’ve decided that the problem is bigger than them so they need to call in “the big guns” to solve it. While your coach is positioned to help you hash out the details of getting from point A to point B, no one can fully solve the problem but you.
Bringing it back to sports (don’t we always), tell me, have you ever seen a coach leave the sideline and get in the game for his players? Nope! No matter how good or bad they’re doing, the coach plays his position and lets the players play theirs.
That is the powerful truth behind coaching. We’re here to empower you, not do the work for you. We remind you that you have the power within you to not only set goals but reach them. We help you break down your seemingly insurmountable obstacles into bite sized pieces and give you tools and short cuts along the way.
In the end, you’re equipped to take what you’ve learned and apply it to any situation the game of life throws at you.
The mark of a good coach isn’t someone who does the work for you but someone who reminds you that the power to get it done was inside you all along.
IS COACHING WORTH IT?
If I knew then what I know now
I always look back and wonder how my life would’ve been if I’d had a coach to help me through the rough times.
Would I be who I am now? Would I be better or worse for having a stronger support system behind me at those times?
One thing I’m sure of is that the “know it all” attitude of my youth would’ve clouded my ability to fully receive all the wisdom a coach could’ve provided. There are some people in life who must learn things hands-on so that they’re better able to teach others.
Knowing that now helps me appreciate the path that has led me to this space.
While it’s easy to get caught up in the space of what I wish was, I’m more effective when I operate from what is.
Think about if you had known “then” what you know now. What experiences would you have missed? What teachable moments would you not have to look back on and help another person avoid?
Every moment is meant to evolve you into the person you’re becoming. Never allow regret or wishful thinking to sneak in and steal the joy of presence from you.
I realize that if I had known then what I know now I’d have robbed myself and many others of the experience of who I AM now.
Don’t rob yourself of the adventure. Your life is a miracle unfolding, allow yourself to occur.